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Short Essays About the Work
Essays on clinical experience, relationships, mourning, and the questions that arise in the course of analytic work. Some take up familiar difficulties from an unfamiliar direction; others begin with something that seems not quite settled.
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5 essaysGrief & Mourning
The Mystery Cure for Grief
What remains of a relationship after loss? Beginning with Freud, this essay considers mourning, identification, the imago, and what may become possible through analytic listening.
Marriage & Couples
The Third in Every Marriage A Friendly Rem(a)inder: This (a) Is the O
Marriage is not always an encounter between two people alone. What might the presence of a third reveal about desire, expectation, and the difficulties of loving another person?
Love & Relationships
Did I Marry My Father? The True Myth of the Oedipal Couple
What if the question is not whether someone resembles a parent, but how an intimate relationship draws us toward something familiar, perhaps even something that once caused pain?
Sexuality & Desire
F*cking Forever
Could aggression have a place in sustaining erotic life rather than simply threatening it? An inquiry into the tension between passion, intimacy, and the wish to remain together.
Clinical Work & Listening
Borderline: A Letter to New Therapists
A diagnosis may help organize clinical thought, but what happens when it begins to determine what can be heard? A reflection on identification, judgment, and the difficulties of listening.
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